Mirror, Mirror on The Wall...

Jack Nicholson said a mouthful, boy. Something many of us need to realize. "You can't handle the truth!"What would be your response? "Yes I Can! You don't know me! " or did you think "Hmph, you got that right Jack!"? I don't remember what my answer was back then but today, my answer is Try Me! I'll take cold hard truth over anything else any day. I seriously need it. I'm getting too old for those faithful but faulty rose colored contact lenses. Life is not gonna pass by me while I'm floating in a cloudy fog of pretend and daydreams. What would be the point of my life if I didn't live in the reality of truth.

Reality = Can u handle it?

I recently told a truth to two friends. One could and one couldn't handle it. The one that could said "I know. You're right. I've been thinking about that, actually". The one that couldn't said simply, nothing. Didn't even respond. Acted as though the convo didn't happen. I believe there was a little anger, maybe even resentment there because I could feel the tension in the silence.

Was Couldn't wrong? My gander: Either the truth was too ugly to face so Couldn't shut it out it or Couldn't wanted me to ignore it and I didn't so, in order to keep the peace between us, Couldn't said nothing. I don't think I will ever know because I won't ask. I feel I did my part as a friend and the rest is the responsibility of Couldn't. If you just can't, then don't. But I've laid it all out for you so take that information and do with it what you want.

The party in the wrong would have been me if I had said nothing. As adults, we are responsible for our actions and decisions. As a friend, I feel that it is truly my responsibility to give my friends the truth and to make things clear when I believe they can't see clearly. But what about when they just don't wanna see clearly? Or if they do see everything for what it is but just ignore it in the name of comfort and complacency?

I recently faced a truth about myself. Something I always knew I did but never dealt with it enough to change it. Until recently.

There were times in the past when I would say nothing about certain things to certain people because I didn't want any confrontation. I knew that if I told my opinion or stated what was obvious to someone that didn't want to see it, then there would be a huge rift in the relationship. Is that worth not being not giving a person the straight truth when necessary? Absolutely not. Who knows why I avoided confrontations but that weak, decaying leaf that clung to me done fell off the vine, Baby. A stronger one has grown in its place. It's shiny and green and pretty. And I like it.

Can you handle it?

I challenge you to face a truths this week. Two things you have been trying not to think about because it's too ugly.